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A family member may say they accept that you are bisexual while also asking you not to tell relatives, neighbours, friends, or anyone else.
Sometimes the request comes from fear, culture, religion, concern about gossip, or a wish to avoid conflict. The family member may believe they are protecting you—or protecting the family. Even when the intention is not openly hostile, being treated as a secret can make acceptance feel conditional.
There can be an important difference between someone respecting your need for privacy and someone deciding that your identity must remain hidden for their comfort. You may also feel caught between wanting to preserve an important relationship and wanting control over who knows this part of you.
You are allowed to consider safety and practical consequences. You are also allowed to set boundaries around who gets to make decisions about your disclosure.
Have you ever been told that your bisexuality was accepted but should remain a family secret, and how did that affect your sense of trust or belonging?
Please avoid pressuring anyone to confront family members when housing, finances, cultural circumstances, or personal safety may be involved.