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There is no single correct moment to tell a new partner that you’re bisexual.
Some people prefer to mention it early because they want to know whether the other person is accepting before becoming emotionally invested. Others wait until trust has developed, especially if they have experienced stereotypes, fetishisation, rejection, or unwanted disclosure before.
Waiting is not automatically dishonest. Your orientation is personal information, and you are allowed to consider safety, privacy, and whether the relationship is becoming serious. At the same time, keeping it hidden for a long time can become stressful if you feel you must monitor what you say or avoid an important part of yourself.
The right moment may depend less on a fixed number of dates and more on whether the conversation feels safe, relevant, and respectful. A supportive response does not have to be perfect, but it should not pressure you to prove, explain, or change your identity.
When have you chosen to tell a new partner, and what made that timing feel right—or wrong—for you?
Please avoid telling others that there is one disclosure deadline everyone should follow.