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Including bisexuality on a dating profile can make it easier to be open from the beginning, but it can also change who approaches you and what they assume.
Some people include it because they would rather filter out potential partners who react negatively to bisexuality before investing time in a match. It may also make it easier to connect with other bisexual or LGBTQ+ people without turning disclosure into a separate conversation later.
Others deliberately leave it off.
They may prefer to build some trust before sharing, may not be publicly out, or may have experienced fetishization, invasive questions, rejection, unwanted attention from couples, or assumptions about non-monogamy and sexual availability.
Leaving bisexuality off a profile does not automatically mean being dishonest. A dating profile cannot contain every personal detail, and people are allowed to decide when disclosure feels relevant, safe, and appropriate.
The choice may also depend heavily on the app.
Some platforms make orientation highly visible, while others allow it to be hidden. Filters, privacy controls, profile prompts, and whether orientation settings actually affect who sees you can all change the experience.
There can also be trade-offs. Listing bisexuality may save time by filtering incompatible matches but expose you to more stereotyping. Leaving it private may reduce unwanted attention but mean having the disclosure conversation later with someone you have started to like.
There is no single correct approach.
Have you included bisexuality on a dating profile—or deliberately left it out?
How did that choice affect who matched with you, the questions people asked, the amount of fetishization or biphobia you encountered, and whether you found people who seemed genuinely comfortable dating a bisexual person?
Did your answer change depending on the dating app you were using?
Please avoid suggesting that everyone must disclose their orientation through a dating profile. Privacy, safety, visibility, local circumstances, and dating goals differ.