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Being in a committed relationship does not always make attraction to other people disappear. For bisexual people, talking about attraction can become especially sensitive when a partner worries that they are being compared with another gender or expected to provide every kind of experience.
Some couples discuss crushes or attraction openly, while others prefer clearer boundaries around what is shared. Neither approach is automatically healthier. What matters is whether both partners can communicate without turning ordinary attraction into an accusation, a test of loyalty, or pressure to reveal more than feels comfortable.
It may help to separate noticing attraction from wanting to act on it. It can also help to talk about what the conversation is meant to provide: honesty, reassurance, greater understanding, or simply room to mention bisexuality without creating alarm.
At the same time, openness should not require one partner to repeatedly soothe comparisons or describe private attractions in detail.
How have you talked about attraction within a relationship without making either partner feel compared, threatened, or silenced?
Please focus on communication and boundaries rather than assuming every couple should share the same amount of detail.