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Dating within LGBTQ+ spaces does not always protect bisexual people from stereotypes.
A gay or lesbian date may worry that you will eventually leave for someone of another gender, question whether you are fully comfortable with your sexuality, or treat previous different-gender relationships as evidence that you are not genuinely interested. Some people may have been hurt before, but a past experience does not make suspicion toward every bisexual person fair.
It can be difficult to decide whether an awkward reaction comes from unfamiliarity, personal insecurity, or a deeper refusal to trust bisexual partners. Someone may be willing to listen and reconsider their assumptions. Another person may continue expecting you to prove your attraction, loyalty, or connection to LGBTQ+ community.
You should not have to minimise your history or distance yourself from part of your identity to appear safer to date.
Have you encountered distrust or rejection from a gay or lesbian date because you were bisexual, and what helped you decide whether the conversation could become more respectful?
Please speak from personal experience without generalising about gay or lesbian people as a whole.