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Bisexual people on dating apps are sometimes approached by couples even when their profile clearly says they are looking to date one person.
A couple may assume that bisexuality means automatic interest in joining an existing relationship. Sometimes one person starts the conversation without clearly revealing that a partner is also involved, or a profile appears to represent one person until later.
Even when an invitation is polite, repeatedly encountering the same assumption can feel objectifying. It can create the impression that being bisexual makes someone automatically available for threesomes, group dating, non-monogamy, or someone else’s relationship experiment.
Couples are allowed to seek consensual connections, but honesty and boundaries matter. A bisexual person should not be treated as an addition, an experiment, or a solution to someone else’s relationship.
Being attracted to more than one gender also does not tell anyone what kind of relationship structure you want. Bisexual people may be monogamous, non-monogamous, single, looking for one partner, casually dating, or not interested in dating at all.
Profiles and filters can help make preferences clear, but they do not always prevent unwanted approaches. Some people state their boundary directly in their profile. Others prefer to decline briefly, block, or report profiles that hide an existing partner or repeatedly ignore stated preferences.
It can also be useful to notice whether a profile clearly identifies everyone involved, whether both people appear to have consented to the account, and whether the conversation respects your stated boundaries from the beginning.
Have couples approached you on dating apps when you were looking for one person? What helped you set that boundary or recognise profiles that were misleading about who was actually involved?
Were there particular profile signals, filters, wording, or app features that made this easier—or apps where the problem seemed harder to avoid?
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