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Bisexual people are often assumed to be straight or gay based on their current partner, dating history, appearance, or the setting they are in.
Being misread once may feel minor. When it happens repeatedly, it can become tiring or isolating. You may feel pressured to correct people, explain yourself, or decide whether speaking up is worth the possible questions. Staying silent can protect your privacy, but it may also leave you feeling unseen.
The effect is not the same for everyone. Some people are not bothered by other people’s assumptions, while others experience frustration, self-doubt, disconnection from community, or the sense that their identity disappears whenever their relationship changes.
Correcting every assumption is not a requirement. You are allowed to choose when visibility matters, when privacy matters more, and when you simply do not have the energy to educate someone.
How has being repeatedly assumed to be straight or gay affected your wellbeing, and what helps you decide whether to correct the assumption?
Please respect that members may choose visibility or privacy for different personal and safety-related reasons.