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Bisexuality is often described as attraction to more than one gender. But what happens when sexual attraction is rare, develops only after a strong emotional bond, or is not something you experience at all?
Some people identify as bisexual and greysexual or demisexual. Others describe themselves as biromantic and asexual because their romantic attraction can involve more than one gender, even when they experience little or no sexual attraction.
These experiences are not necessarily contradictory. Romantic and sexual attraction do not always follow the same pattern, and people may use different labels to explain different parts of their identity.
There is also an important distinction between needing an emotional bond before feeling sexual attraction and simply choosing to wait before having sex.
Have you ever struggled to explain how bisexuality and the asexual spectrum fit together?
Do you use more than one label, prefer a broader identity, or feel that labels sometimes make your experience harder to explain?
You do not need to share intimate details. Different experiences and respectful perspectives are welcome.