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Dating women for the first time can feel surprisingly unfamiliar even when your attraction itself is clear.
Some bisexual women have years of experience dating men before they intentionally start dating women. Others have known they were attracted to women for a long time but have never had the opportunity, confidence, or privacy to act on it.
That can bring practical questions. Who makes the first move? How do you know whether another woman is flirting or simply friendly? When do you mention that you are bisexual or inexperienced? What happens if someone worries that she is only an experiment?
Lack of experience does not make your attraction less real. At the same time, honesty matters because another person deserves to know whether you are genuinely interested in dating her rather than using the experience to prove something about yourself.
What helped you become more comfortable dating women?
Was there something you learned about taking initiative, dating apps, disclosure, queer spaces, first-date nerves, boundaries, or handling biphobia that made things easier?
And is there something you wish someone had told you before your first dates with women?
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