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Understanding your bisexuality does not always mean having a clear answer to every question.
You may feel secure in the label but still wonder how attraction works for you, whether certain feelings will change, how visible you want to be, or what bisexuality means within a particular relationship or stage of life. Some questions become clearer through experience, while others remain open for years.
Not having an answer does not make your identity less valid. People can understand themselves well enough to move forward while still carrying uncertainty about part of their attraction, history, relationships, or future.
This discussion is not about finding one definitive answer for everyone. It is a place to name the question that keeps returning—and perhaps hear how other people have approached something similar without being told what their answer must be.
What question about your bisexuality do you still struggle to answer, and why does it continue to matter to you?
Please respond with curiosity rather than trying to decide another person’s identity for them.
I have a question I can't answer yet.
it's been a while since I discovered and accepted my sexual orientation, I know I'm attracted to opposite and same gender romantically and sexually, but since I never slept and/or fell in love with a same sex person I wonder if a very bad experience will destroy my identity or not.
@frea_04 A bad experience would not erase what you already know about your attraction. One experience — good, bad, awkward, disappointing, or simply not what you expected — does not have to define your orientation.